This spring has been a banner year for roses. My old (neglected) rose bush is blooming. My neighbor with the green thumb said a bush that hasn’t bloomed in nine years is blooming this year! I remember as a child my grandmother’s double driveway was lined with beautiful roses through the middle and the scent was so lovely! Pure Rose essential oil is a bit pricey, but no wonder! It takes 22 pounds of rose petals for a 5-ml bottle of Rose essential oil. Rose oil is one of the most valuable essential oils you can acquire! (Let me know if you want to order some from my online store.)
Spring time is a great time to focus on being fragrant – – and I’m not just talking flowers & fragrances here. As we focus on the attractiveness and beauty of the abundant and fragrant rose blooms this time of year, we can draw an analogy to ourselves and how we want to “stay fragrant” in our relationships with others.
Let’s replace smelly, unattractive behaviors (ours and our kids’) with more attractive, fragrant ones!
I designed this poster to help us do just that – – to help us think about and teach ways to “stay fragrant” this spring and summer.
Train up a child in the way he should go;
even when he is old he will not depart from it. ~~Proverbs 22:6
With three key points, it can help us avoid being reactive in negative, even harmful ways and help our kids understand that people can respond in a more careful, intentional way that they purposefully choose, rather than allowing themselves to be controlled by knee-jerk reactions that are not well-thought out and not beneficial.
This colorful poster tells us to “stay fragrant” and to “Be the bigger (inner) person”.
- Point one is to have Self-respect — with the affirmation: “I respect myself more than to speak or act in that way. I won’t let you draw me into your misbehavior” These affirmations may not necessarily need to be said addressed to anyone else and are meant mainly as helpful self-talk.
- The second point is Self-control — with the affirmation: “I may feel upset, but I am not out of control. I will feel better in a bit.” Naming feelings out loud, such as in this affirmation, may help identify the feeling and help facilitate self-control, so though it is self-talk, speaking aloud might be useful, here, depending on the situation.
- The third is Personal Boundaries, Values & Commitments — with the affirmation: “I choose for me. You choose for you.” Allowing that others can have differing opinions and make different choices can help keep the peace and move forward in a number of different types of situations.
Save, print or jot these down as reminders to yourself and to teach and practice with your kids this spring.
And if you’d like a copy of the poster, I’d be happy to have one (or more) printed and mailed to you for $12 each. Just contact me by email.
Hope this helps you and your family to have a smooth spring & summer!