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Steps to Self-Esteem, Simple as A – B – C

Could your child have low self-esteem?

Many of the challenges that plague children are the result of low self-esteem. Teenage pregnancy, drug usage, poor grades, fighting, depression, and even suicide can be the result of low self-esteem. A child with high self-esteem will enjoy life more and have a more successful childhood. Children with high self-esteem are likely to grow into adults with high self-esteem.

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”

Genesis 1:27 ESV

Grow your child’s self-esteem and confidence with the following tips:

A is for Attention:

Draw attention to your child’s strengths. Notice the natural talents that God has created in them. Let your child bask in the glory of being good at something. Whether your child’s strength is in school, throwing a fastball, or playing Go Fish, let them know that you notice how great they are at it. It doesn’t need to be elaborate praise, either. Sometimes praise will backfire because the child may feel uncomfortable with much praise or may not interpret it as sincere. Even just an acknowledgement that you notice them and their efforts may be most appropriate. Excessive praise may backfire if your child internalizes it as pressure.

B is for Bounce:

Teach your child how to bounce back from failure. Explain that it happens to everyone and is part of life. Help your child to examine what went wrong in her approach and how to improve. Encourage your child to be persistent until success is achieved. Encourage experimentation, trial and error.

C is for Choices:

Give your child choices. Flexibility within boundaries. Options without overwhelm. Suppose your young child is getting dressed for school. Instead of choosing the clothes for your child you might allow him to have a few options that are suitable. Choose a few different outfits and then allow your child to choose between them. You’ll have a well-dressed kid that feels empowered because he chose his own clothes.

There are countless opportunities to make your child feel better or worse about himself. If the above tips were helpful, you can get a list of all ten of my tips with the button below.

You CAN help improve your child’s self-confidence.

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